Overwhelmed Single Mom:6 Amazing Stress Relieving Tips

Of course, every woman expects to have the perfect picnic white fence(whatever the saying goes) life when they start a family. However, for many of us, it doesn’t work out that way. You can become a single mother overnight for many reasons. And really that can leave any mom feeling damn right overwhelmed. “Overwhelmed Single Mom: 6 Amazing Stress Relieving Tips.”

How Do We Become Overwhelmed Single Moms?

Infidelity
Trust Issues
Finances
Lack of maturity on his end
He was a complete asshole
Or many other reasons

My children’s father is head over heels for our children and they are the same about him. However, things between us two was not that easy. So we separated. Even though we are co-parenting, I’m still in the category as a single mom. And that’s okay I’m going to take that title own it and be superwoman.

How To Prevent Being an Overwhelmed Single Mom?

If you find yourself being a single mother here are some helpful tips that I grasped and it helped tremendously:

1. Closure

Understand why the relationship ended was not your fault. Even if it was you are now in the situation where you are alone. Sometimes we have to go through our phase of grieving. That’s okay and that is healthy. Let out your “exhale” before it builds up and it becomes harder to manage.

ACCEPT THE CHANGE. YOU CAN’T CHANGE THE PAST. ONLY CHANGE YOUR FUTURE.

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How To Start Closure As A Single Parent?

We kind of have it hard when we end a relationship with someone who we share kids with. You can’t completely go cold turkey as if its normal break up. (unless safety is a concern).

You need to keep in mind you have children that still need their bond with their other parent. And on the other hand you just want to get over the asshole. Sounds about right? I got you. Here are some tips to getting closure for yourself, but not your children:

Just breathe-Take everything in. Privately (not in front your babies) cry, scream, write out a long text of closure if needed
Don’t React- When we are mad we act out as most of the time regret it. Makes me think of ‘Waiting to Exhale’, when Angela Bassett lit her cheating husband clothes and car on fire as she walked away in her baddie outfit. Okay, don’t do that. But my point is making irrational decisions when we are heated.So don’t react. Don’t make important decisions when your heated.
Girl Talk- Talk it out with trusted women in your family or close friends. It maybe so embarrassing (which you shouldn’t be). But talk it out you feel like a weight has been lifted and you may hear some of their encouraging stories.
Make your children aware about a change. Depending on their age you may want to replace some negatives with positives. For example: “Daddy, won’t be staying here anymore. Daddy and I still love each other, but not as much as we use to. But we both still love you the same and that will never change.” That will let your child(ren) know that there is a problem. But the problem won’t change the love that you and their other parent have for them.

2. Prepare For A New Start

Write down all your fears about change and the future without being with your partner. It is very scary changing what or whom you are use to. Thinking about the future alone can make you very uneasy and overwhelmed.

But writing it down gets all your jitters out and you’re able to see it on paper. And then you know what look at your list and start thinking about how you can turn your negative into a positive.

Get your children use to the new change along with you. Take them through the positive transformations as well. Even if they are not showing it. They may miss their other parent.

How Can I Help My Child Not Be Sad?

Let the other parent be active in the child’s life. Use your discretion. But don’t hold your child away from his/her father because he made you mad by cheating or whatever. As long as safety is not a concern.
Keep your child active with activities. And do a lot of these activities with your child. (See activities for children all year around on my Pinterest board)
Spend as much time with your child as you can. They already have one parent who is not around as much. Don’t make it two unless your work schedule calls for it. Even then make your child and their feelings a priority when you can.

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3. Breathe

BREATHE It has been a hard road for you lately. Just breathe have some time to yourself out your day just to become one with yourself. I know its hard being a mother to have any time to yourself. I choose to have my time to myself when my little ones take their nap or they are sleep.

4. Finances In Order

Make sure all of your finances are secure and if not make a financial plan. Ask yourself how am I going to make the bills this month? Will he still contribute to our child(ren)? If so, how much? Or will I have to file for child support? Do I need a second job?

5. Setting Boundaries

Figure out how to reasonably co-parent whether it’s he gets weekends or where you all meet in a public place like the courts. No, having visitations at court is not ideal. However, in some situations, this is best for the safety of you and your child. When you establish guidelines with the father you won’t be as overwhelmed as a single mom.

6. Find Yourself

Find yourself. Lose those few lbs. you have been waiting to lose. Get into a new hobby. When you’re in a toxic relationship…..its a distraction from positive things you could be doing. Now is your time to do it. It will keep you occupied and you will feel EMPOWERED.

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You go girl. Just know you are an amazing woman and mother. As people, we naturally become stressed. Becoming a mother heightens the stress level. Doing this alone as a single mom, every day may be overwhelming. But you got this. Everything you do let it be something that you and your children will say thank you for at the end of the day.

Stay tuned mommy. This blog is for everything for modern moms. Some content will be informative, some to give you life lessons, and some just to simply make you laugh. And we all need that.

4 Comments

Lindsay says:

October 22, 2020 at 10:33 pm

Thanks for this article. Life is so stressful these days and it’s great to try to find some ways to cope. I’m going to work on implementing your suggestions!

1. Star says:
  
  October 23, 2020 at 1:10 am
  
  Thanks for reading Lindsay. I’m glad you were able to find some stressful tactics, to everyday stress now. Hang in there.
  
Autumn says:

October 22, 2020 at 4:34 pm

These are great tips, I can definitely relate. Especially the part about setting boundaries. So important!

1. Star says:
  
  October 23, 2020 at 1:17 am
  
  Thanks for stopping by Autumn. And yes, boundaries are very important, when trying to relieve any tension.